THE SHAUN SAYS THIS…
We all know of someone whose always stretched thin even though they have ever thing going for them. If you’re having a hard time fully grasping what The Shaun is talking about, raise your hand if any of the following sounds familiar…
Even though you may far more than enough to cover your bills, do you never seem to have any money for yourself?
Do you love ones occasionally tell you than they need more of your time, yet you don’t even feel like you have time for yourself?
Are you always exhausted even though you haven’t accomplished shit all day?
You often forget to eat.
Never get enough sleep.
Always feeling stressed and under-appreciated.
If so, that probably means you haven’t been maintain your “bottle” properly.
OKAY….who’s confused and saying, “WTF you mean I’m not maintaining my bottle?!?” Well, its okay to be confused because THE SHAUN is about to learn you about yourself!! Now this will require some audience participation, so bear with THE SHAUN for a few moments.
First, grab an empty bottle…this bottle represents you and your life! Now pour in some water, this represents your money, time and wellness (love, stress, energy). Everyone done that….GOOD!
Now take a sip or two from your bottle, this represents the amount of time, money and energy you spent a work each day.
Pour out some to represent the bills you pay.
Take a sip for each of your children and/or anyone else you support on a daily basis. Now support includes anyone you give your time/energy talking to all day like that friend who spends their day bitching to your about their life and family.
Support also includes anyone you do something for throughout your day like drive to the store, loan money to and watch their kids ETC. Take a sip for every instance because these mofo’s are drinking from your BOTTLE!
In order to function we must refill our bottle yet the interesting fact is…you are usually the only one refilling your bottle as it relates to money and energy….and even sometimes love. The role of your kids and (for the most part) your family is to assist with the refilling of your bottle with love and appreciation. Yet what is often the case, is many of the people and activities in our life do not contribute to the refilling of our bottles.
Hopefully everyone is with me so far because here’s where it gets complicated because what you may not realize or often forget is that some of you allow people to use you to fill up their bottles!
WHHHHOOOOOAAAA!!! Did I just blow your mind?! Okay maybe not but The Shaun has always wanted to say that. 
For example, since our kids often do not have the proper tools, skills and knowledge in life to fill their own bottles we must do it for them by pour some of the substance of our bottle into theirs. Yet since they cannot fill their own bottle, they are excused yet you need to gradually teach them the keys to filling their own bottle gradually by teaching them value of hard work, respect, education and taking care of themselves. You will not always be there to help them with their bottle in life so it’s imperative that you instill these traits in them so they’re not still sleeping in your basement at the age of 40.
HOWEVER, some of you are refilling the bottle of mofos who are perfectly able to fill and maintain their own bottle but are too damn lazy to do and too inconsiderate and selfish to assist refill your bottle.
This is the person who always asking to drive them somewhere yet never give you gas money
The person who also pulls the “COUSIN JEBADIAH” on you and shows up unannounced with 4 kids and no money during the holidays!
The person who’s locked up but have you as they only person to call collect and ask to pay on their books because their family has deserted them.
The person who keeps dropping off their damn kids with you whenever they wanna do something or they just tired of being a parent for a while.
The person who consisting asks to borrow money because they can’t seem to take care of themselves yet never repays it.
The person who always tells you they’re going to do something for you but backs out constantly at the last minute.
The person who just needed a place to stay till they got on their feet yet you suddenly realize that was 4 damn months ago!
THESE MOFOS ARE NOT ONLY DRINKING FROM YOUR BOTTLE BUT YOU ARE FILLING THEIRS!
Oh and watch out for those MOFOs who only add negativity to your bottle. Let’s just visualize them as those who backwash when they drink from your bottle.
Now after we have allowed everyone in our lives to drink from our bottle, there’s nothing left in our bottle for ourselves so we’re always exhausted, broke and down while everyone around us is dancing around with energy to spare with their new outfits as they sit on their ass.
The Shaun says YOU HAVE TO WATCH WHOM YOU LET DRINK FROM YOUR BOTTLE!
Those who aren’t putting any love, money or time into your life should not be allowed to suck the love.money and energy from you. There are some exceptions in regards to kids and family but you must also limit how much you let them drink from your bottle.
For those who reading my blogs, this concept is very similar to “dropping the excess weight in your life” but with the understanding there are some people you just can’t cut off but you do need to put limits on. Now you may have to use The Shaun’s concept of “sometimes you have to be the asshole” when limiting people from taking too much from your bottle as well but remember its for your own good.
The Shaun suggest everyone keep a symbolic bottle on their desk, mantle or dresser to remind them of the importance of maintain their “bottle” and ensuring you do not allowing people in your life to drink from your bottle that don’t contribute to refilling it.
Oh and for those that have gotten offended by The Shaun’s “bottle” thinking. Grab yourself a bottle and filling with some ice cold SHUT THE FUCK UP because you are probably someone who spends their life drinking from our people’s bottle’s because you’re too lazy and selfish to fill up your own!
